How to spot a ‘Hater’ – as perfectly demonstrated by many of the commentators of this fine article:

How to spot a ‘Hater’ – as perfectly demonstrated by many of the commentators of this fine article: http://www.parentcentral.ca/parent/education/schoolsandresources/highschools/article/834981–ace-earns-perfect-report-card-how-did-she-do-it

OH. EM.GEE.

I am shocked and appalled by some of the responses to the above article, which was posted in the Toronto Star yesterday, July 12, 2010.

The article is a personal story about a grade 12 student who just earned a perfect mark on her latest report card. In short, she explains how she divided her time amongst social and personal commitments and her reaction to her achievement.

What’s the problem? The responses by ADULTS – that’s what! You have to see it for yourself – the epitome of HATERATION. If there was ever a need to include that word in the dictionary (if it isn’t already there) – that time would be now. Let me give you a sample. Lol.

“Propaganda anyone

I dont discount her grades but her time to do everything. Hmmm. In order to get those achievements there had to be shortcuts. The way she talked on the radio made her sound like it was a breeze. Good for if that is really the case. Today I handed out my report card to my 1 year old. I gave him 100% for walking 6 steps. And he did while sucking his thumb and holding his nappie all the while looking backwards.”

OR

“Its alright

I would be impressed, but I managed a 94% in a private school, taking 11 grade 12 credits and graduated at 16 all with little studying and managing 6 hours of tv a day. Yes, this shows what people are capable of when they try, but it also says how bad our public school system is. It is NOT possible to get 100 in english, no matter what. Even with perfect spelling and grammar, it is impossible to argue every side – hence a thesis. I also feel sorry for her because 1. She is going to McMaster??, 2. I would like to see her find the time to study in university and what her marks are going to be, could be an interesting follow up piece…”

GASP. Seriously?? And here I was, getting ready to print the article and post it in my son’s bedroom! What the hell?? Anyway – let me explain WHY these comments reek of ‘hateriscousness’ (lol).

1) The first comment has a negative in the first sentence.

2) BOTH comments begin with ‘I’

3) The second hater show signs of ‘private school’ elitism – “She is going to McMaster??”

4) BOTH use their own lives as a direct frame of reference!

Some of us have taken a hater pill at some point in our lives – but this is ridiculous!

However it is the PERFECT example of how jealously can manifest itself. Each responded in such a defensive manner to something had nothing to do with them! As if it were a personal attack against their achievements. Although the subject of the article isn’t a peer, they still feel the need to make a direct comparison to themselves (or their children). Wow. Who knew it was a crime to do well in school? To have something negative to say about something so innocent and wonderful begs the question – how easy it is to be a hater?

Very.

Are you a hater? In a given day, how often do you find the need to form an opinion about something – Anything. When you do – is your first thought an argument against the presented issue? Do you feel like you might morally combust if you don’t contribute some strong left wing opinion against something? How difficult is it for you to consider an opinion you are against? Do you find it nearly impossible to not share a negative opinion? Do you discredit an argument just because of the source? i.e. they might not be high enough on the ‘status’ bar – or you just don’t like them..? Do you feel uncomfortable when someone else receives compliment or praise? Do you find it hard to accept compliments/gifts/help – because I believe this can make you a hater too. When you kill yourself to work so hard for everything and watch other people receive and ACCEPT help – you think to yourself ‘no fair’. Hater is thy name.

Hateration has nothing to do with hate – and more to do with jealousy, maliciousness and a sense of entitlement. I’ve been there a time or two – but acknowledge that it is simply that – and knowing better – I can laugh at myself, and move on. There will ALWAYS be someone luckier, smarter, prettier, wealthier, healthier than you. However do not forget that there are a lot MORE people less intelligent, less wealthy, less healthy and less happy than you are – and that they not be so by choice. In the end, you don’t need to constantly compare yourself to others to establish a confident idea of self. At least not when you’ve ‘arrived’. When you get to that place where you are truly happy – you don’t care what anyone else is, does or gets.

To conclude, I sure hope those critiques don’t end up working for this lady one day – or need for a solution that she invented. That would just kill them- I think. Kill them dead.

Live.Love.Laugh.

Dee

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